Now that March Madness (including the Masters) are behind us and as the sports world’s attention shifts over to Baseball and Softball, I am going to make that my segue to talk about tackling the biggest problems of those two sports, Fear of Failure, by sharing 3 Mental Strategies To Get Over Fear of Failure.
As a mental toughness trainer who has worked with thousands of athletes, youth and adult, by far the biggest problem is fear of failure. It’s especially destructive for baseball and softball players since succeeding 3 out of 10 times at bat is considered doing well.
So, I am going to give you 3 mental strategies to get over the fear of failure for you to use to deal with the problem.
Mental Strategies To Get Over Fear of Failure #1
I have looked at and examined and dissected this concept and the word FAILURE and have determined it to be non-useful for sports and performing and therefore, my definition of it is:
“A destructive word OTHERS use to describe events when they don’t achieve their goal or outcome.”
In other words, I teach that there is NO SUCH THING AS FAILURE. It doesn’t exist except as a useless story in your mind. (get rid of the idea of failure and you get rid of the fear of it).
It’s destructive to all athlete’s confidence, young and old, and it’s completely unnecessary to use the word for any situation or circumstance. I teach my young athletes to use deadly accurate descriptions of events that allow for growth and improvement, not destruction. For example:
– Event: A batter strikes out in the last inning with 2 runners on base, 2 outs and down by 1.
– Destructive description of event using “failed”
“I failed myself, my coach and my team by striking out in the last inning with 2 runners on base and down by 1 in the most important game of the year and I cost us the game.”
– More useful description of the event:
“At the end of the game, I struck out and was proud of myself for standing in there and taking good cuts.”
(Notice no need for the word “failure” in any of that useful description)
Mental Strategies To Get Over Fear of Failure #2
Decision to be resilient, no matter what. When an outcome is not achieved and disappointment and other emotions follow, there’s 2 basic ways kids (and all humans) respond:
1. Wallow in victimhood
2. Learn from the event and come back stronger and smarter
Resilience, or the ability to come back from adversity or “get back on the horse after you fall off” is paramount to building confidence. Confidence cannot be built in the presence of any fear. When you come back or conquer anything difficult, you don’t fear it any more. This applies to all of us. Each of us has to make a decision, in advance, that we will always choose option #2 above. This is what really destroys fear of failure.
Mental Strategies To Get Over Fear of Failure #3
Create a Mantra or Label about yourself that you can believe and with lots of repetitions, sink it into your subconscious. You know the value of repetitions for physical skills, right? It’s no different for mental skills such as this one. You want it to be something that directly antidotes the fear of failure/ mistakes problem.
Mine has always been: “I’ll figure it out”
When my boys were growing up, I repeatedly told them our family motto is: “Things always work out for us.”
Examples of labels you can call yourself:
I’m a comeback specialist
I never give up
My speed/power/intelligence will always carry me through
I am a baseball/softball machine no matter what happens
I’m an underdog. I love surprising people with my skills
Remember what one of the greatest boxers of all time, Muhammad Ali always said:… “I am the greatest.”
What most people don’t know is the rest of the story. He also said: “I am the greatest…and I said that before I knew I was.”
Let’s do this!
Craig Sigl’s work with youth athletes has been featured on NBC TV and ESPN. Get his free ebook: “The 10 Commandments For a Great Sports Parent” and also a free training and .mp3 guided visualization to help young athletes perform under pressure by visiting: http://MentalToughnessTrainer.com